Often the first things parents try to instill in children is respect for elders. But children will be children and having patience pay off in the long run. We just have to be persistent and gently keep reminding them the virtues of respecting all adults be they parents, grandparents, siblings, relatives or teachers. You of course, will be the best role model for your child. Instead of stars we should remind them that any good action is rewarded by Allah and appreciate the child for good behavior rather than give them a candy each time.
Apart from being a respectful parent yourself, you can recount the countless instances of this particular trait from our Holy Prophet’s (PBUH) life. A famous account is:
One day Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) was going somewhere at noon and it was too hot in the desert when He (S.A.W) saw an old woman carrying her luggage on her head. Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) helped her and took the luggage from the woman and carried it for her..
Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) asked the woman that where she was going and why? She said that I am leaving this town as I have heard that a magician named Muhammad (S.A.W) is in town.
As Holy Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) was very patient and kind, He (S.A.W) didn’t say a word and kept listening. The old lady kept complaining that why she was leaving the town.
In short the basic reason of her to leave the town was her misconception about Muhammad (S.A.W), who was walking beside her and she didn’t knew it. While walking with the Holy Prophet (peace be upon Him), that old women noticed that this young man have a brightness on his smiling and humble face. And she also noticed that His sweat is perfumed. She was very impressed.
When they reached the destination, Muhammad (S.A.W) put down the bag and was about to leave when the old woman said,”O, kind person! At least tell me your name!”. Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) replied,”I am the person because of whom you left the town.”The old lady was amazed to listen that and said that such a kind, helping and true person can never be wrong and therefore she also accepted Islam.