“Public speaking invokes more fear than the fear of death, “ or so the research says. It also says that children who speak on public platforms, possess more critical and analytical thinking skills and generally acquire more success in life.
Makes sense, since communication and the art of persuasion are both soft skills that are essential to the making or breaking of any relationship, personal or professional.
The ability to speak is not enough, it’s speaking well that matters. I have not only experienced this personally, but seen it intimately in the students I have taught, right from primary to high school. No matter the age, children who are prompted to talk their mind in public, are generally more confident, more self-aware and are clearly set apart from the majority of kids who do not partake in this activity. Effective communication is integral to people skills and public speaking actually helps in developing not only IQ but EQ!
Sadly, most public speaking forums are arranged by schools, and even if they do arrange such events, precious few kids are given the opportunity to present speeches, declamations or to participate in debates. Here are a few ways on how to develop these skills in your child in the confines of your home:
We’re a week into Ramadhan and it’s time to reflect on how much we’ve tried to amend our ways, where our spirituality lies… but wait… what about the kids?
Often times, caught up in our routines and extra worship we tend to under rate the opportunity that the holy of month of Ramadhan can present in terms of adjusting not only our own moral compass, but indeed tuning the inner morality of the little ones.
This article will give you ideas on how to incorporate little adjustments and tips on how to do just that.
Giving your child his or her first cell phone is a very personal decision. Everyone has their own perspective on when it’s the right time but one thing that all parents can agree on is that these little devices and wreak havoc and cause all types of damage if misused. Among the top fears:
Stalking by some freaks.
Exposure to inappropriate material.
Wastage of time and potential.
I am certain you can think of a few more scary scenarios.
It’s that part of the year again, the final exams fast approach, the scariest scrap of paper, you know the one- with boxes and dates and page numbers and chapter names, is handed over to you. For a second you don’t want it. Your heart rate increases, your mood takes a nose dive and a sinking feeling in your gut suspends you in time. As your body recovers, in the next couple of minutes you hold it scanning for the gaps in the dates and especially focus on the date of the first exam and with more fervor, the date of the last one. It’s seems like a life time away.
In the next few moments you know what you have to do. This is serious business and not a moment can be lost. You go into super-mom mode, a checklist has neatly been imprinted in your mind- you are now the ‘man with a plan’.
Get kids to show books for work completion….. check (or not, give a couple of slaps, condemn the kid)
Is it corrected…… check (or not, well better make an appointment and take the teacher to task)
Hassle the tuition teacher to get her priorities right…. check
Unleash hell on the whole household- EXAMS ARE UPON THE KIDS…. check
Does this sound familiar? Yes… I thought so too. Let’s focus for just one minute and assess the situation. Let’s analyse exactly how our response is going to yield any positive results shall we? And then let’s talk about what we can do to help our already stressed and burnt out kids with their exams in a way that is productive and not stressful.
After the discussion there is handout that you can download and keep for easy reference if you feel this post has helped you in anyway.
Myth: A stubborn child who doesn’t do as he is told is going to be a failure in life, a bitter disappointment and basically a useless fool who just keeps getting into trouble.
Reality: Consider the red apple in this picture: It’s all in the perception. Sure you’ve got one wrong coloured apple in your grocery bag, but is it any less better than the other green ones? Does this apple merit tossing it aside without even considering that it may be more sweeter and crisper? You can do two things: eat it along with the others or toss it into the back of the fridge till it rots and ultimately gets thrown out.
It’s not a very good analogy I’ll admit, but you get the point. What you are looking at as a piece of could in fact be a real . It all depends on how you tackle the situation. A child who is stubborn has so much life, creativity and spunk. He has the potential to be a leader and trend setter. Consider a change in terminology to aid the negative image: Stubborn is determined, defiant is enthusiastic. All he seeks are proper channels to divert all that pent up energy, all the emotion. We usually block any progressive outlets, thereby creating stubbornness and defiance. So the next time you are in the ring with your child consider the following alternative options: Continue reading →
It’s not that we teachers discriminate, or give preference to one child over the other- a professional would never dream of doing that, but teachers have feelings too. I’ll have to admit, there are always a few kids that just make us smile when we think about them. I’m getting a few images in my mind right now. Again, I would never give preference to any child over the other. One of the most fundamental doctrines of teaching is to be fair and just. However, I believe that you parents can instill a sense of that something extra in your child’s teacher’s heart by encouraging them to follow these little tips (and no buttering her up is not one of them- that doesn’t work really).
We go through our daily tasks, kids centered around our activities, their meal times, their play time, nap time and hoards of other ‘times’. But don’t we often think, what is this world coming to? Where has humanity run off too? Where is compassion and where is empathy? We read the news, when does it ever lift your spirits? There is literally only misery.
We send our children to the best schools we can, provide them with as much comfort as we can. But what are we truly imparting as our legacy onto them? Are we doing something wrong? Is this the way we want them to perceive the world? Are we to equip them and mould them into adults who in fact contribute towards this lawless indifferent society?
I am no idealist, nor am I naive. The world is what it is, yet I feel if we can all work together and teach our children the true values of decency, of morality, of the value of truth and respect of rights of members of not only our own family, but also of the society and the world at large,then we can change the sad tide of affairs, one small deed at a time. There is always hope.
As a parent, teacher, mentor I have often asked myself how I can fulfill this rather tall ambition of mine, when everyone around me is looking out for themselves in the most selfish of manner, when even other kids resort to bullying, lying, cheating and parents are often okay with it dismissing them as follies of youth? If you are like minded then read on, otherwise you can just dismiss this article as the ramblings of a lone woman with her heart in the right place, but who’s just a day dreamer.